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A Single Woman learns about love
God has been working in me: first, He'd made me realise and accept that a husband would and could never fill the gap inside that I can feel at times; I'm now convinced about it and I don't expect or long for such completeness from a man any longer.
God has been showing me that when married you have to live as if you weren't! Let me explain my thought: even though married, I now think that the wife shouldn't put her husband before God, and the husband shouldn't put his wife first either. God must remain God in both partners. I knew that with my mind but I used to find it hard to accept. Now I'm ready joyfully to accept it.
God knows my desire to have a husband who loves Him with all his heart, mind, thought and strength. I want God to be first in his life - and I don't want to be the first. I want God to keep preparing my heart for this. I don't want to feel any jealousy because my husband spends time with God. May God preserve me from that!
Also, in the past, I had a different view, a worldly view, of love. I was more interested in getting than in giving. Now, I want to give, to support, to be there, to encourage. I also desired that I should to be the leader of a family; that desire has now disappeared as I realise that, under God, my future husband is appointed to be the leader .
The more you have a relationship with God, the closer you get to Him, the more you are healed, the more your character is restored, and the more your relationship with other human beings is restored.
When I give my life to God, when I decide to love him with all my heart and to adore Him - then I forget about myself, about my needs. But God doesn't forget about me! He looks after me. God Himself meets my needs. He knows what I need, He knows the desire of my heart and, through experience, I can say that He's always answered beyond what I expected.
I know that I won't find my security in my future husband. He's human and, by nature, he will always fail to fill the gap I can have in my heart at times, because he won't be able to! He hasn't been designed to do so!! He, too, has gaps that need to be filled and now I know that I'll never be able to fill them!!!
When the Lord showed that to me, I have to say that I was frustrated. How proud is the human heart! Now that God has revealed my human nature to me, I've come to a stage where I am aware that the best thing for me is not to try to do what I think is God's work in my future husband's life. What a mess that would be!
I'm not in a rush. It's true that a lot of people are praying but I believe that it's God's time that matters and I should pray for that. I know that He wants the best for me so His time is perfect. My heart is at peace.
KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF "LORDS"
Only a week ago the newspapers were predicting a large majority for repeal of Section 28 of the Local Government Act 1988. This governs the teaching of homosexuality in our schools placing it, to quote the Archbishop of Canterbury, "on an equal footing with marriage as the proper context for sexual intimacy".
This section says, "...a local authority shall not a) intentionally promote homosexuality or publish material with the intention of promoting homosexuality; and b) promote the teaching in any maintained school of the acceptability of homosexuality as a pretended family relationship."
The new Local Government Bill would effectively repeal Section 28.
An Independent newspaper report (25/01/00) headed "Church protest forces Blair to shelve Section 28 vote", states that, "...the Lords vote set for next week has been put off indefinitely" and " ... the Government also appears to be delaying a Home Office Bill to lower the age of consent for gay sex to 16". "The Government is almost certain to be defeated on the issue when it comes before the House of Lords".
In case anyone is confused by later reports this last week that a free vote is being allowed for Government supporters in the Commons on the repeal of S.28, a vote for repeal in the Commons is unlikely to stop the Lords rejecting the move. the Government cannot use the Parliamentary Act to force repeal through because the Bill started in the Lords.
Prayer works in unusual ways. Part of the pressure on the Government this week came from the Muslims and the Chief Rabbi as well as Christian leaders. However we cannot assume that this battle is won - a week in politics is a long time and this may be a temporary postponement.
Remember that we do have direct access through prayer to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords (who is ultimately ruler even of the House of Lords!).
Don't forget that a democracy cannot work effectively without political lobbying. However diffident you may feel about making your thoughts known to MPs, remember that they will only know the strength of opinion in their constituency if you tell them. Write to them at the House of Commons, Westminster, London SW1A 0AA. Telephone their agents in the constituencies or their secretaries in the House of Commons.
Pray for those political leaders who are standing for Biblical truth that they may have courage to stay firm. Pray for those who are ignorant of God's mind on the matter. Pray for the Prime Minister who said that he believed that the repeal of S. 28 was the 'right thing to do'.
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